Want to Meet Someone Special? I think all the online dating services are a wonderful way to meet someone. It is rarely the services themselves that result in problems. It is the approach some of the off-balance participants that create difficulties. I believe that many of the people who have gone off the deep end with the dating services are the ones that have become “addicted” to them. By addicted I mean, they have become dependent upon their smart phone to create social sit

For the last five thousand years, people came together over time. They got to know and admire each other slowly and naturally. Feelings take time to grow. Thoughts about someone change, but feelings about someone such as a first love, rarely change or leave you in an entire lifetime. I am not suggesting that you should hope to get stuck in an elevator as a good way to meet someone or that you were meant to be with someone because you got stuck in an elevator with them. There

Do you remember TV shows or movies from the “yesteryear” when two people got stuck in an elevator together pre-cellphone? After an awkward or even nerve wracking first few minutes, they settle down and give each other that uncomfortable smile. Eventually, one of them decides to break the silence by starting a neutral conversation about the weather or the economy. As they remain stuck for more than a few minutes, one says, “I hope we are not stuck in the elevator too long beca

I then said to her, “do you see the difference a small and short act of kindness can do to not only you, but to another person who in this instance was a stranger?” Kenia said, “yes, I do see the difference. It does make a big difference to be kind.” Moments later, a man on his way to work the same time I walk Kenia to the bus stop, walked by just as he did each and every work day. For the first several months this happened, this kind looking man would walk by without raising

That very same morning as we were walking to the school bus stop, we passed a security gate that the guard has to electronically open after we ring the bell. Right in front of us, maybe twenty feet away, a man was coming through the gate and instead of holding the gate open for us to walk through, he quickly moved on and let the gate close. He passed us by with his head down and we were so surprised by his untypical (most people are kind enough to hold the gate open if we wer

Sometimes you learn the simplest, most powerful lessons of kindness under the most ritual and mundane circumstances. For instance, five days a week, I get up, or I am awakened by my daughter Kenia, to get her ready to go off to school. This morning I asked her as usual what she wanted for breakfast. I would ask if she wanted cereal or oatmeal? She would say….either….oatmeal…or cereal. Her response left me cold. It took a few days for me to realize that the correct and kind re

Dan ATL: I met this new lady the other night, but am afraid of scaring her off. I have been separated for the last 3 years, and divorced since September. I am kinda new at the dating game (again). I met her at a small club, chatted for about 3 hours. We danced some, and she gave me her number. I am very attracted to her. She is not only very pretty, but my age, and intelligent. Just not sure of how to proceed. LUVCOACH: We are want to be with someone we can be proud to

LongHaul: I am very attracted to a woman who is in the process of getting divorced. There is a mutual attraction there...but at times, she seems to make an overly aggressive effort at saying things like she has no interest in falling in love or being involved in a commitment of any kind whatsoever. Yet, when we're together, she ACTS the opposite of what she says....Any insight? LUVCOACH: It sounds like she would like very much to have you around while she goes through her c